Have you ever had this feeling?
A few times, you say.
Not a comfortable feeling, is it?
Vulnerability is something we tend to avoid … like the plague! It is certainly something I have shied away from. Not that I did it consciously. I didn’t think, “I really don’t want to put myself in a vulnerable situation, revealing my innate vulnerability.” You know, my soft ’emotional’ underbelly. It was more like, “What, are you nuts? Why would I want to risk making a fool of myself like that?”
Some people might accuse me of being a coward. I like to think of myself more as sensible!
According to Google, vulnerable is defined as, exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
I don’t know about you, but the idea of exposing myself to physical or emotional harm purely for kicks (even for self-development) is rather unappealing. It’s not high on my bucket list!
And yet, to avoid vulnerability is to cheat yourself out of potentially rewarding life experiences. Experiences that could provide lasting memories. Not to mention a healthy boost to your self-esteem.
I was inspired to write this post after reading a post by a fellow blogger, because it brought vulnerability into my conscious awareness at a time when I was wrestling with inferiority and cowardice, two character ‘challenges’ I faced growing up.
I think, in many corners, showing vulnerability is seen as a weakness, and yet, quite the opposite is true. It takes great strength and courage to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Besides, isn’t it better to have a life filled with oh wells, rather than one filled with what ifs?
So put yourself out there. Make yourself vulnerable. Tell someone how you feel about them. Share your dreams. Do something you’ve been ‘too afraid’ to do. Think of it as an exercise in developing courage … without going to the extreme of standing naked in Times Square!