The biggest single challenge I’ve faced on my journey to recover my health is overcoming the hidden [unconscious] detrimental beliefs, which when triggered, put me in a state of fear that leaves me experiencing extremely intense symptoms. It has been happening almost on a daily basis.
I can still remember the moment as if it happened yesterday. I was driving back to university late on a Sunday evening when this weird feeling came over me. To this day, I cannot describe it, other than to say I didn’t feel at all well and it scared the bleep out of me. When I woke up the next morning, my mind felt ‘fuzzy.’ I couldn’t think straight. There was a buzzing sound in my ears. I had difficulty reading the newspaper and following conversations.
I had actually had two similar experiences before this, the first when I was 18 and the second, two years later. On the first two occasions, the symptoms went away after a few days. This time, they didn’t.
Wild Horses … The Rolling Stones
If you find yourself getting upset with something or someone (for example, when you feel like you’re being taken for granted), dig deep and quite likely you will find that at the root of your upset is a feeling of rejection or more appropriately, a fear of rejection. To understand this fear, let’s consider the flip-side of it, which is acceptance. Another way of expressing the fear of rejection is to say, ‘the fear of non-acceptance.’
If we were aware of five things, I think it would change our experience. These five things could bring us lifelong happiness and good health. I call these the 5 Essentials and they are:
- To have an awareness of the truths of our existence…the truths of who we really are and why we’re really here on the planet…that we are actually divine spiritual beings having a human ‘experience.’ What is more, we live in oneness with all that is and that there is a purpose to our existence and that purpose is to simply experience, without judgment, everything there is to experience…pleasant and unpleasant.
- To know that the most important thing for each of us each day of our lives, is how we feel about ourselves…that we feel lovable, worthy, good enough and empowered. That we know in our hearts that we are a good person, no better, no worse than any other being.
- To heal our emotional pain and to know that this is an essential aspect of the human experience. This means talking about what upsets us, forgiving those we need to forgive and saying ‘I’m sorry’ to those we need to apologize to.
- To eat and drink healthy…in order to attain optimum health we need to eat foods that strengthen our immune systems and alkaline our bodies.
- Live in the present moment … when you live in the present moment, you cannot be tortured by incessant negative thoughts. You cannot be haunted by the past or frightened by the future.
I believe in my heart that understanding and incorporating these 5 Essentials into our daily lives will bring us peace of mind, joyful living and love. They will bring us happiness and good health.
Wishing you an awesomely abundant day!
I recently started reading Conversations with God for Teens, by Neale Donald Walsch. While reading the book, I thought about the questions I would want to ask God if I was having a conversation with him or her and the first question that came to mind was, ‘why are so many people struggling to get ahead in this world?’
I just watched an Oprah Winfrey interview with Lisa Marie Presley, the daughter Elvis Presley and former wife of Michael Jackson. Lisa Marie thought it was ironic and didn’t understand how it was that her extremely famous father and extremely famous husband could have died from the same thing…over use of prescription drugs. Nor could she understand the significance of her connection with these men.
Elvis had 14 different prescription medications in his body when he died. MJ’s autopsy revealed evidence of at least 7 different medications.
I can’t help but think both of these extremely talented, charismatic and personable men died for the same reason…to help guide mankind back to a better way of living.
We have become a society that reaches for a pill bottle at the first sign of trouble. Got a cold, take a pill. Got an ache, take a pill. Can’t sleep, take a pill.
I recently asked two police officers from different police forces what the most pressing problem is in the province of Ontario and they both said, Oxycotin, a prescription pain medication, which has now become a lethal street drug.
Is this really the way we’re meant to live?
I sincerely believe that rather than taking pills it would serve us far better to understand three things: first, the role of the immune system and the importance of a healthy diet in maintaining the immune system’s health and proper pH level in the body, so we don’t get sick in the first place. Second, the role of unresolved emotional pain as the underlying root cause of sickness and disease. Third, the importance of self image…feeling good about yourself…in reducing stress and developing and maintaining healthy thoughts and eating habits.
Taking medications simply neutralizes symptoms and makes the people who own and run drug companies rich. They’re not a long-term solution to healing.
But, you ask, what about the famous philosopher and mathematician, Descartes, and all the other people who died from pneumonia and other diseases, whose lives could have been saved’ using medications. Again, I bring your attention to the importance of having a healthy immune system and proper pH balance.
Elvis and MJ, like all humans, were capable of logic and common sense and they were surrounded by people who were capable of logic and common sense and yet they allowed their health and lives to be ruined by prescription medication. On a higher spiritual plane, there must have been a reason for this.
I hope and pray that it’s not going to take a few more Elvises and Micheals for us to figure it out? Perhaps this explains Lisa Marie’s connection to these two men. To use her fame to bring awareness to these ideas.
Have a thoughtful day!
Jim Carrey starred in a movie a few years ago entitled, Me, Myself & Irene. Carrey plays a state trooper with a split personality assigned to escort Irene, an alleged hit and run driver.
Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation, feeling like you’ve got a split personality, embroiled in an internal conversation: “Well that was stupid.” “But I was doing the best I could.” “Hey you two, pipe down will ya, I’m trying to get some peace of mind here.” Yikes!
I did recently. You see, I had cancer…a mild form of skin cancer…and while I’m happy to say that it’s gone now, hopefully, never to return, I have some pretty strong opinions about the disease…and most other diseases for that matter.
The conversation I had went something like this:
Me: “I can’t believe it.”
Myself: “Can’t believe what?”
Me: “All the people who continue to die from cancer.”
Myself: “Why is this so unbelievable?”
Me: “Look at all the money that gets raised every year for cancer research. You’d think they would have found a cure by now.”
Myself: “That’s true, although there are millions of people around the world whose livelihood depends on the existence of cancer, especially the people who run drug companies.”
Cancer: “I have a purpose.”
Me: “Hmmm. I’m not sure what to make of all this?”
Myself: “Yes, I’m not surprised. Billions of dollars have been spent on cancer research in the 50 years and yet every year millions of people are newly diagnosed and almost one out of every two people diagnosed, dies from it.”
Me: “But we’ve got Cancer Society months and cancer awareness months.”
Myself: “And yet people continue to die.”
Cancer: “I have a purpose.”
Me: “But why aren’t they working? Maybe we’re missing something.”
Myself: “Do ya think?”
Cancer: “I have a purpose.”
Me: “What are you saying?”
Myself: “Everything happens for a reason.”
Me: “You mean cancer has a reason, or the fact that we haven’t found a cure?”
Me: “You mean God wants to punish us?”
Myself: “Nope. Contrary to popular belief, God doesn’t judge, condemn or punish.”
Me: “Then what?”
Myself: “I don’t think we’re meant to find ‘a cure.'”
Me: “Are you serious?”
Me: “But why wouldn’t we want to find a cure?”
Myself: “Because, if we did, we wouldn’t change the way we live.”
Me: “You mean we wouldn’t stop eating unhealthy foods, polluting our environment and mistreating one another?”
Myself: “Yep. And we likely would never bother to take the time to understand the role our immune system plays in the state of our health.”
Cancer: “You’re gettin’ it.”
Me: “And I guess we’d never figure out the role unresolved emotional pain plays in the development of disease.”
Myself: “Or the role feeling good about yourself plays in preventing disease.”
Me: “I guess the existence of cancer causes us to ask questions.”
Myself: “Like why are we really here.”
Me: “Isn’t that to learn the truth of who we really are?”
Cancer: “Now you understand my purpose!”
Have an awesome day!
A certain special person in my life has been encouraging me to write with more humour, although a recent discussion about the matter left me feeling bewildered. Perplexed. Upset even.
How am I supposed to write with humour about the subjects I want to write about…the importance of feeling good about yourself, understanding the truths of our existence, helping people end their individual suffering, helping humankind end its collective suffering? These are serious issues that I feel compelled to present in a serious manner.
Well, it’s funny how the universe works in synchronistic ways. You see, I recently started reading a book titled, I Don’t Want to Talk About It, by Terrence Real. It’s about male depression. Stupid depression, as Homer Simpson would say. The author, a counselor, provides a very real…not an intentional pun…and understandable description of depression. More importantly, he differentiates between overt and covert depression.
We all recognize overt depression. It’s Brian Wilson of the Beach Boys lying in bed for a year. It’s Judy Garland having a nervous breakdown and turning to alcohol and drugs. It’s Kurt Cobain taking his own life.
Covert depression is less recognizable as depression. It’s masked in the form of addiction, workaholism, abusiveness, excessiveness, impulsiveness and irresponsibility. The behaviours of a covertly depressed person aren’t necessarily linked to depression. Real makes the connection and for me, it was an important distinction.
You see, when you look around you see lots of stuff that isn’t very funny. You see lives that are litanies of covertly depressed behaviours masking anger…anger born of unexpressed and unresolved grief, shame, guilt and resentment…that we mostly direct at ourselves.
You see children who constantly act out, misbehave and bully. You see teenagers who rebel, drink excessively and get in trouble with the law. You see parents who mistreat their children. You see adults with financial struggles, failed marriages, failed business ventures…although I am loathe to consider anything a failure because I think all experiences are life lessons…and whose bodies are in a constant state of betrayal.
The body, as I have learned the hard way, is the canary in the coal mine. When there is unresolved emotional pain, the body will tell you. Acne, migraine headaches, food sensitivities, joint pain, back pain, broken bones, concussions, arthritis, asthma, cancer, neurological disorders and gastro-intestinal disorders are the body’s way of telling us that we have unresolved emotional pain, although quite frankly I figured this out a long time ago and so I wonder why my own body won’t shut up.
Perhaps we’ve lost friends and never grieved. Perhaps we’ve grown up experiencing injustice and didn’t have the courage to stand up for ourselves. Perhaps we’ve grown up feeling unloved and unwanted because love was never overtly expressed in our family. Perhaps there were no ‘I love you’s,’ no hugs, no cuddles, no nurturing. Maybe it was expressed in other ways and wasn’t recognized as love. Parents are generally well intentioned…they want their kids to be good and they do love their children, but many simply believe it’s the way kids are supposed to by raised.
Perhaps we’ve done inappropriate things for which we’ve never fully forgiven ourselves…behaviours born of shame and grandiosity, the hallmarks of the wounded inner child that is at the core of covert depression.
Anybody depressed? Sorry, if you’re feeling depressed, I didn’t mean to depress you.
I think it’s important to talk about these things. It’s an essential part of healing. Maybe it will inspire others to do the same. You know, ‘I’ll show you mine and then you show me yours!’ And perhaps injecting a little humour now and then is the medicine we all need to overcome depression…to heal the emotional pain that is at the root of it.
Towards the end of the book, Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah, by Richard Bach, there is a chapter with only two lines. The first line is a question, ‘How do you know when you have no more healing to do?’ The second line is the answer, ‘When you’re no longer here.’
Emotional healing is a lifelong process. It’s one of the main reasons we’re here on the planet, although don’t tell that to the medical community or the drug companies. Stupid drug companies! It’s even more important than getting laid…sorry guys…and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Healing our emotional pain is liberation. It frees us from the chains that bind us. It is an expression of self love. And healing with a little sense of humour, as Patch Adams taught us, helps enormously in the process. It helps keep us sane.
Okay, now that I figured that out, let the humour begin. If only I could get past this mental block. Stupid mental block! Where’s Homer when you need him? The internet, is that thing still around…doh!
Have an awesome day!