Conflict arises when one party tries to impose its will on another party and the second party resists, or worse still, counters by trying to impose its will on the first party.
We are presently having such an experience on the road we live on!
We live on a private, for the most part, one lane, dirt road. It’s a cottage road with a posted speed limit of 30 km/h, a very reasonable speed limit. Unfortunately, some individuals, according to others, like to travel at a much higher rate of speed, posing both a safety risk and a dust problem. In order to solve the perceived problem and slow traffic, a group of residents decided to install four speed bumps and indicator signs at various locations.
Most of the residents, it seems, are satisfied with this solution. At least one, unfortunately, has reacted very negatively, by taking down signs and tossing them in the bush and driving across one neighbour’s lawn. This is all being done covertly. The situation is escalating with warning signs, including profanity, being posted.
To date, I have avoided any direct involvement in this matter, mostly because I loathe confrontation and I loathe conflict. However, I am being affected by it, mainly because the person whose lawn is being driven on is a very close friend.
Conflict causes stress which works against the recovery efforts of those experiencing a neurological condition. It puts us in a state of fight or flight, causing our body to produce adrenaline and cortisol, rather than the feel-good neurotransmitters, dopamine and serotonin.
However, conflict induced stress can be avoided in two ways. First, by approaching life and all situations with kindness, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude and generosity. Second, by staying in spiritual consciousness. When we know that we are divine spiritual beings of pure love, living in oneness with the universal-energetic-intelligence [God], and all that is, we know that there is no reason for conflict. We know that all conflict arises from ego and unresolved emotional pain. We respect the other person’s point of view and we search for an amicable solution!
I suspect this experience came to me in order for me to better understand conflict, why it affects me so deeply and how I can overcome it; all part of the recovery process!
I believe that when we live in spiritual consciousness, we view all experiences as just that, experience, without judgment or emotional involvement. We know that we are not a victim, but rather, a participant in the flow of life, here to experience!
Wishing you a tranquil day!