As I set out on my walk to the labyrinth the other morning, one question was foremost on my mind. Why is it that despite everything I’ve learned about fear, its purpose, its role in the development of neurological disorders and how to overcome it, I’m still beset by feelings of fear that leave me experiencing intense symptoms, every day?
I hadn’t walked for long when an insight popped into my mind: fear is in my nature! In other words, I’m hard wired for fear!
This was an eye-opening and reassuring insight! Even though I grew up feeling all kinds of fear [fear of being laughed at, embarrassed, hurt, beaten up, bullied, disappointing my parents, spanked, getting into trouble, people finding out how scared I was, etc.] I hadn’t thought of fear being my very nature.
As a society, we tend to see fear as a character flaw. Children who exhibit fear are teased. They’re called chicken, yellow and other demeaning adjectives. It can be humiliating and disempowering!
The concept of being hardwired for certain emotions isn’t new to me, actually. I learned several years ago that a propensity to experience specific emotions can be the result of them being embedded in our DNA. Or, as in the case with people who have been diagnosed with autism or Asbergers, because the brain has been wired in an atypical way. I watched a video several years ago on Temple Grandin, an American woman, renowned for implementing humane practices in the cattle industry, who was diagnosed with severe autism at a young age. She explained that her brain is wired in such a way that she only experiences four emotions: fear, anger, sadness and happiness. She said that her primary, dominant emotion is fear. She compared herself to a prey animal, such as a deer.
So it’s quite possible, although I can say for certain, that I am hardwired for fear, perhaps because it was necessary so that I was sure to experience fear in order to understand it and be motivated to overcome it by seeking love. I know that I’m different than my brothers who don’t seem to be affected by fear the same way I am. Either way, it is a comforting possibility.
Assuming that being fearful is my nature, what can I do to overcome it and perhaps begin to rewire my circuitry? I believe what I need to do, is accept, adapt and believe. Eckhart Tolle, author of A New Earth, says that one of the keys to happiness is accepting the present circumstances. The same holds true here. Accepting that fear is my nature brings a measure of peace of mind. I can stop fighting it, and instead, adapt to a new way of thinking of myself. Being fearful doesn’t make me less of a person. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me. It’s just the way I’m experiencing life. Also, perhaps, this will help me to feel less anger, which itself would be awesome! I can also believe. I can have faith that fear maybe my nature now, but it doesn’t always have to be this way. I can overcome it. Spirit [God] wants me to overcome it in order to achieve my magnificent destiny. Whatever that may be!
Have an awesomely magnificent day!