Chronic anger keeps us in a state of chronic stress, which in turn messes up our neurology and fatigues our adrenal glands. It causes our bodies to be in a state of constantly producing stress hormones and neurotransmitters, such as glutamate, adrenaline and cortisol, while shutting down the production of calming neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, eventually leading to neurological conditions like Parkinson’s.
As Buddha said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” It is worth dissolving!
Anger is actually a natural emotion. According to Wikipedia, “Anger is an emotional response related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been threatened. Often it indicates when one’s basic boundaries are violated. Some have a learned tendency to react to anger through retaliation. Anger may be utilized effectively when utilized to set boundaries or escape from dangerous situations.”
Anger is the fight part of the fight-flight response. Fear causes us to run, while anger inspires us to stand our ground. Historically, anger helped people stay alive, particularly when confronted by a predator or hostile enemy.
What causes anger to become destructive, is when we hold onto it, and we hold onto it when we feel like a victim, when we feel like somebody has done something to us. When we feel like the world [like] owes us a favor.
And so, the way to dissolve anger is to step out of victimhood and we do this by changing our perspective. Rather than seeing ourselves as victims of life, see ourselves as students of life. Instead of feeling like things have been done to us, trust that they are happening for us, that they are part of our journey towards fulfilling our purpose.
Simply put, change your perspective on your experiences [on victimhood] and you let go of anger!
This will likely take some practice. Old habits are not always easy to let go of, particularly when somebody says something that triggers you . If anger does come up, don’t judge it. It is just anger wanting to leave your body. This is natural. Tell yourself that it is okay to release this anger. If you have to, stick your face in a pillow and scream until you no longer feel angry. Stick with it. Trust the process. In the end, you will triumph!
Have an awesomely triumphant day!