My Journey with Parkinson’s … A Natural Approach: Post 50 … Helplessness!

helplessnessThere is no worse feeling than the feeling of helplessness. Like being carried by the rapids, towards the head of the falls, it truly is a horrific awful feeling!

Experiencing Parkinson’s can sometimes leave you feeling very helpless. When you struggle with simple day to day tasks and as you watch certain symptoms progress, feelings of helplessness can overcome you.

If, growing up, you had experiences (which I did) that left you feeling helpless and you didn’t resolve the emotional pain connected to these experiences (which I didn’t), living with Parkinson’s will surely bring them to the surface (which it has).

For me, these feelings of helplessness are usually expressed in the form of anger, sometimes, overwhelming rage, and all I can do is stick my face in a pillow and scream until they’re gone (until I feel better).  I don’t mind telling you that it is a difficult process but it feels good when I’m finished.  Because it is an unorthodox process, it can feel embarrassing and even shameful, but I have to remind myself this healing is necessary and there’s no need for judgment.

Releasing unresolved emotion pain aside, the truth is we’re never completely helpless. There’s always something we can do. Some action we can take. Words we can express.  We have a choice. We may have to pay a price for our actions (a young child may be punished or fall into his or her parent’s disfavour, or you may get beat up standing up to a bully), but paying a price for our actions is a far better option than the price you pay for doing nothing. It far exceeds feelings of helplessness. As William Wallace said to his men before their first battle in the movie Braveheart, “Would you not trade all the rest of your days living under tyranny for one day of freedom.” Having experienced feelings of helplessness, I would answer this question with a resounding, YES!

Feeling helpless has a way of stripping you of your self esteem. It makes you feel bad about your yourself. It imprisons you. It is essential that you not succumb to these feelings. That you take action. That you empower yourself. This too, is part of the healing process. It is part of the growth process. Taking action will help you feel good about yourself and when you feel good about yourself, you are unstoppable!

So when you feel frustrated, when you feel angry, when you feel helpless, accept that this is okay and that these are natural feelings.  Choose to be patient and choose to heal.  This is empowerment!

Have an awesomely empowering day!

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6 comments on “My Journey with Parkinson’s … A Natural Approach: Post 50 … Helplessness!

    • I think it’s like swimming with the current rather than fighting it. Recognizing that everything has a purpose, even the unpleasant stuff, and if you can look past your suffering, you can find the gift in the experience. 🙂

  1. Hi Fred! I am a caregiver for a person who developed PD in her late 50’s. I have encouraged her to share and read your blog, however most days she is just too ill and anxious to concentrate on much. Until a few years ago she was drug free, but the tremors started to get extreme so they felt that the natural measures were failing and she was convinced by the medical community that drugs would be the answer. She is also using diet supplements and she is using electrical impulses machines. However she appears to be worse as the anxiety is unbearable most days.

    She has lost a lot of weight and is quite frail. What are your thoughts on a diet that excludes all starchy vegetables and every grain even excluding rice.

    I am referring to the GAPS diet and we have been researching why this diet was recommended for her. My fear is that nutritionally she needs to get stronger due to her weight loss and due to her anxiety, now is not the time to make drastic diet changes. She is already on a gluten free, junk food and processed food free diet to begin with. Any advice would be greatly appreciated so we can get her strong enough to fight back. She has a strict exercise routine that she adheres to no matter how bad she is feeling. Also some of the drugs seem to have an addictive quality to them, ie. anti-anxiety drugs.

    It would be great to hear your thoughts on this matter.


    • Hello Maggie,

      Thank you for your message. Sorry to hear about a client’s situation. Her weight loss and fatigue aren’t necessarily the result of her diet. As you probably know, they are a common characteristic of Parkinson’s. I too have lost a lot of weight and I feel tired all the time. Thankfully though, and having anxiety.

      I would suggest that she eat more coconut oil, olive oil and fish. That should help her with her weight and energy.

      The gaps diet is a good diet. I am on more of a ketogenic diet [high fat, low carbs and low protein]. I am off starches and grains. If she is happy with the gaps diet, encourage her to stay with it. The key for her is to detoxify her body [alkaline the body, eliminate inflammation and heal the gut] and the gaps diet will help her do that.

      Is she getting any counseling for her anxiety? Has she read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. That might help her as well.


  2. Hello Fred:

    Yes, she is getting lots of good oils both coconut and olive oil. I am encouraging her to get some hemp oil as well. Therapy yes most definitely, this is devastating for her.

    The GAPS diet is very intriguing. It has worked wonders for Autistic children, although the stress for a Mom with a picky child would be a task! I am wondering if wild rice and mesquite powder/flour would work?

    I will definitely mention the book you refer to. Thanks for taking the time to answer back! Will keep you posted.


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